Dangers Of Hatred To Your Health

MEDITATION

Dangers Of Hatred To Your Health

Proverbs 10:12 "Hatred stirs up dissention, but love covers over all wrongs." NIV

Point to ponder on: Hatred is a gateway to emotional disorder and an enemy of inner peace and love.

“Holding on to Hate is like letting someone live rent-free in your mind,” said Joanna Kleovoulou, a Clinical Psychologist. Hatred is a very strong feeling of dislike.

God knows what is dangerous to our health and some instructions in the Bible are meant to prevent us from ill-health apart from sin in itself.  Also, to help us maintain our peace of mind and embrace love the strongest positive force among human race.

Psychologically, hatred is a form of neurosis, fixation and judgment that is harmful to us as human.
According to Joanna Kleovoulou, "Hateful feelings are normal when they occur sporadically. However, the effects of feeling hatred over a long period of time can have devastating effects on your mind and body."

Research shows that hatred changes the chemistry in the brain as it stimulates the premotor cortex which is responsible for planning and execution of motion. This prepares us to act aggressively when feeling hateful, either to defend or as an attack . This activation also triggers the autonomic nervous system, creating “fight or flight” responses, increasing cortisol and adrenalin. Both these hormones deplete the adrenals and contribute to weight gain, insomnia, anxiety, depression and chronic illness. And so the cycle of bodily and mental disease continues. Hatred also triggers the mind to try to predict what the actions of the person being hated may do, as a way to protect you, but this leads to further anxiety, restlessness, obsessive thinking and paranoia, which also then impacts negatively in the way you engage in relationships. Hatred stirs up disagreement in a relationship or group over a little matter that parties involved should have sought to understand one another if love were present.

It is wise if we must prevent emotional and mental breakdown in our health to avoid hatred like a plague. (1) Acknowledge it when you feel so (2) Ask why you feel so at the heat of the moment (3) Pin the words that come from you as a confirmation you feel hate and anger(4) Don't ignore the issue but try to resolve it (5) Take a break so that you can calm down and feel better letting go of the tension of anger and hate by meditating on Proverbs 10:12(6)  Deal with it by evaluating the cause and work on your mindset (7) And when it seems beyond your control, tell the Lord about it. His peace that passes all understanding will guard your mind.

More importantly, all these negative reactions affect only the hater, and not the hated, breaking down your nervous – immune – and endocrine system, and your mental well-being.

There is always a better way and that way is the way of love and that can be found in God. Let God in over every issue that triggers hatred and let His love overrides all hatred.

Life is good only if we know how to live it.

Good morning. Enjoy His love.

I celebrate you.

David, Johnson

How To Use Words To Deepen Intimacy In Relationships

RELATIONSHIPS JUST GOT BETTER

How To Use Words To Deepen Intimacy In Relationships

By David, Johnson

In my article "Understanding Communication in Relationships", I emphasised how important it is for us to understand how men and women differ in the way they communicate.

In order to improve our communication skills, we must deliberately learn new vocabularies and use words to build intimacy and positive emotions in our relationships.

Consider this Love conversation below:

"(Beloved-Lady) I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys, (Lover-Man) Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the maidens. (Beloved) Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my lover among the young men."
(excerpt from Song of Songs 2:1-3-The Holy Bible{NIV})

Understanding the impact of words on the brain can help us to become better managers, parents, negotiators, lovers, friends—almost any other role in which we as human beings may find ourselves.

Our choice of words has a direct and immediate effect on our emotional response and makes our brains inclined to respond in specific ways. This is true whether we are reacting to spoken words delivered by someone else, or to the inner self-talk that we hear ourselves “saying” inside our heads.

According to Dr. Scott of University College London, "The brain takes speech and separates it into words and ‘melody’ – the varying intonation in speech that reveals mood, gender and so on. Words are then shunted over to the left temporal lobe for processing while the melody is channeled to the right side of the brain, a region more stimulated by music.”

FBI Behavioral Analyst, Dr. Jack Schafer sheds light on the subject by explaining that, “Certain words reflect the behavioral characteristics of the person who spoke or wrote them. I labeled these words, Word Clues. Word Clues increase the probability of predicting the behavioral characteristics of people by analyzing the words they choose when they speak or write.”

Therefore, how you use your words and what you say really does speak volumes about the content of your character. So it is wise to mind your thoughts and even more so your words.

Choosing and using your words

To the Ladies: Say good things you see and feel about yourself in front of your partner.

To the men: Affirm the good things she says about herself with words of admiration. Don't ignore her. She needs you to say it to her over and over again. Learn from the wise man's love conversation. (see it above) You must be familiar with the theory that says "Ladies are moved by words and men are moved by what they see." It is true but men are also moved by words. This is a secret every Lady must know. Respectful use of words lifts men's ego. Your words and actions show you are disrespectful or respectful to a man.

To the ladies and men: Develop your vocabularies. Upgrade your vocabularies in use of words on Love, romance, friendship, chat up and cheer ups. Ladies, whatever you won't say to your male boss in the office don't say it to your partner. Men, whatever you won't say to your female boss in the office don't say it to your partner. Your partner should be more important to you than your boss, so don't ruin his/her self esteem with your words(mouth). Some partners drop love, romantic and friendship vocabularies after the wedding day. This shouldn't be so. Keep it fresh.

To the ladies: When your partner showers encomium on you, go beyond saying "Thank you", add more to it to make it romantic.  Dramatize your word. For example, "Aww you are so sweet, thanks a million my Angel" Use whatever suites you that communicates better.
Say how you feel from the heart to spur him too with love or romantic words. Reply in a romantic way and not just thank you. Return love, romantic, friendship, cheer up words with same. Then you will smell fragrance of freshness always when you converse. Its time to change your language. You can still send love or romantic message to your wife/fiancée while at work as if you just met and want to woo her all over again. Ladies, do same like the men and let love flow afresh in your relationship/marriage.

The wise man's Love Conversation:
Lover(man)- How beautiful you are my darling! Beloved(lady)- How handsome you are my lover!
Lover - Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. Beloved- Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant.
(Excerpt from Song of Songs 1:15-16-The Holy Bible{NIV})

The lady in this conversation doesn't just say thank you and blushes. She responds.

On the whole, my candid advice to all and sundry is to learn new love and romantic vocabularies, use the right words for your partner to spice up your relationships! Intimacy can be deepened when quality words are used with corresponding actions on a regular basis and on a deliberate attempt.

God Is Set To Use You For His Glory

MEDITATION

God Is Set To Use You For His Glory

2 Kings 7:3-9{BBE}

Point to ponder on: If God can use the lepers considered ceremonially unclean, He can use you too for His glory regardless of your past and present state.

How can you conclude that you are unworthy to be used by God? What worthiness humanly speaking made Jesus die for you on the cross? If you were to do something to get Jesus' attention morally, what good thing can come out of the sinful nature? See, stop trivialising the love of God on your worthiness. Christ died for you while..., get it right "while" you were yet a sinner. It was not after you have fixed your life or modified your behaviour or started doing good that got the attention of Jesus. So tell me what worthiness humanly speaking qualifies you to deserve Christ's death? This does not imply that we should encourage bad behaviour and expect fellow humans to love those bad behaviours while we keep telling them they should love us the way we are when we know that even we as individuals won't condone bad behaviour so why put it on others.

Sequel to the line of worthiness, God is the reason for our existence. He knew us right from our mother's womb and has a plan for every life even before we were conceived and His plan is to give us future and hope. However, He wants us to cooperate with him for us to fulfill destiny. Therefore, whatever God has in mind for you has nothing to do with human worthiness which is clothed in sinful nature, but rather in God's divine plan which is beautiful and surpasses human comprehension. Whatever limit you have set for yourself as a conclusion that God cannot use you is a lie from the pit of hell. If God could use the four lepers to fulfill the word of prophecy to rescue Samaria from recession He can use anybody for whatever He desires. Under the covenant of law lepers were considered as unclean and couldn't even enter the temple. But when the time came to put an end to the recession in Samaria, they were the first partaker of the abundance who alerted the city as the fulfillment of the prophecy from Elisha. Your usability has nothing to do with how humanly worthy you are but how worthy God's plan for your life is to Him. We are so worthy in His plan to dominate the earth. Sin came in between yet His worthy plan moved Him to rescue us from the barrier of sin and came in the flesh to die for the entire mankind. How worthy is His plan for all mankind! And now that He paid with His body and blood, you are so worthy to fulfill His plan for His glory, so He can use you if you will surrender to Him and stop going your own way. If He could raise stone to praise Him trust God He can use you for His glory. You are meant to walk on stones, yet He said He can make them to cry out in praise. What an awesome God! That tells me He can turn your life around for His glory. Believe right, think right and live right. He has counted you worthy and qualified you by grace. Stop feeling sorry for yourself but be grateful for His love and grace. God created you for His glory and He will use you for His glory. Just follow His lead.

Life is good only if you know how to live it.

Good morning. Enjoy His glory.

I celebrate you.

David, Johnson

Live To Fulfill God's Purpose For Your Life

MEDITATION

Live To Fulfill God's Purpose For Your Life

Matthew 6:33 "Instead, the most important thing you should be concerned about is to let God completely direct your *life*, and to strive to *live righteously*. If you do that, all the things that you need will be given to you {God will give you all the things that you need}."T4T

Point to ponder on: Life becomes meaningful when we live to fulfill God's purpose for our lives.

It's a great day people of God. It doesn't matter what is happening around us I know that Life is Good, but only if we know how to live it. Life means many things to many people-gift, journey,race, savour, etc. But the big question is, what does life mean to you? If you are going to live this life you must have your own definition of life and find out what life is to God your creator. You must also understand what it means to others around you so that you dont wake up daily running life, competing and comparing with those who dont see life the way you see it. However, if you live your life based on what God calls it, you will operate in God's zone and flow in the direction of God the possesor of the heavens and earth. Jesus says, "Is not life more important than food"(Mat.6:25) If what we pursue is all about what will satisfy the body then when the body is destroyed (transition through death) our work has simply been a wasted effort. Therefore, let us pursue what will outlive the body and speak for us in eternity. Let us seek God, His kingdom and 'His righteousness' and pursue His PURPOSE for our lives- the reason why God placed us on the planet earth, in the continent He planted us, in the country he placed us, in the city we live and in the family we belong.

Life on its own will not always give us what we deserve but what we demand. What is your demand today? Place one on the tablet of life and go for it. Am sure you will return with reward if you don't give up on your demand.

Place a  demand on yourself  to fulfill God's PURPOSE for your LIFE.

Life is Good Only If You Know How To Live It.

Good morning. Enjoy His grace.

I celebrate you.

David, Johnson

Unlocking Possibilities in the World of impossibilities

MEDITATION

Unlocking Possibilities in the World of impossibilities

2 Kings 7:1-2 "Then Elisha said, Give ear to the word of the Lord: the Lord says, Tomorrow, about this time, a measure of good meal will be offered for the price of a shekel and two measures of barley for a shekel, in the market-place of Samaria.
Then the captain whose arm was supporting the king said to the man of God, Even if the Lord made windows in heaven, would such a thing be *possible*? And he said, Your eyes will see it, but you will not have a taste of the food."BBE

Point to ponder on: It takes God to experience possibilities in the world of impossibilities.

An ordinary man with extraordinary results is a product of his belief system and operating the law of action adding extra to his endeavour. A natural man with supernatural accomplishment is a show of divinity infused in humanity. The secret to extraordinary result lies in seeing with the mind and not the eyes. It takes seeing what the power in the invisible can do to command possibility  in reality. There is no limitation in the invisible, the mind can think anything and desire anything but our eyes set limits in the visible world. When things are beyond human capacity then we need the supernatural to get the result desired. Hence, things must be seen with the eyes of faith as in what is possible with God, and with God all things are possible. What daily possibilities do you see for yourself with your mind with God this week? Elisha saw possibilities in the midst of impossibilities based on God's word to him for the nation of Israel and he declared accordingly.
The man who doubted didn't enjoy the abundance. Therefore, it takes faith to see and access the possibilities in impossibilities. Your daring faith will provoke transformation in areas of impossibilities. Therefore, speak the word of God into your day what you desire and act accordingly. "If you can believe, all things are possible to him that believes."(Mk. 9:23)

Good morning. Enjoy His peace.

I celebrate you.

David, Johnson

God Is Turning That Little Into More Than Enough

MEDITATION

God Is Turning That Little Into More Than Enough

2Kings 4:42-44 "One day a man arrived from Baal Shalishah. He brought the man of God twenty loaves of fresh baked bread from the early harvest, along with a few apples from the orchard. Elisha said, "Pass it around to the people to eat." His servant said, "For a hundred men? There's not nearly enough!"Elisha said, "Just go ahead and do it. God says there's plenty." And sure enough, there was. He passed around what he had—they not only ate, but had leftovers. MSG

Point to ponder on: Obeying God's word in the midst of not enough guarantees supernatural provisions, abundance and satisfaction.

Does it look like what you have is not enough to execute the deal? Are you bothered that you have so many needs and fewer resources available? Are you the type who gets so robbed of your peace when money starts dwindling and certain things are pending which must answer to money? Relax and take a deep breath. Anxiety won't solve the problem and no matter the complaint it won't change it either. It is obvious you need help to get things done since it's beyond you. Thank God there is something in your hand and that is what God would use to get you what you desire. Our God is the God who turns little into more than enough: fed 5,000 people with two fishes and five loaves of bread (Matt. 14:17-20). What about the widow with little oil that her oil never ran out just at the word of the servant of God. Miraculously, the little out filled all the borrowed vessels, which she later sold to pay her husband's debt and took care of her children?(2Kgs. 4:2-7) Elisha fed one hundred men with twenty loaves of barley bread. How did that happen? He only followed God's word in the midst of not enough. He believed and acted on what God told him, "...They will eat and have some left over." (v.43-NIV) And indeed they ate and had left over. The most important thing over that issue is what God is saying concerning that resources and provisions? Don't bother how God will do it. Take a step of faith and you will experience the sufficiency of the God of more than enough. Ask God to bless and multiply that which is in your hand as you invest it in your set goals and anticipate His wonders.

Good morning. Enjoy His goodness.

I celebrate you.

David, Johnson

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