How To Make People Feel Important During Conversations

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How To Make People Feel Important During Conversations

The next person to you is a reflection of mankind. Whatever the complexion may be, the body is covered with skin like yours and within are spirit and soul with the body as the house and the outer cover and he or she is your fellow human being. Whether you are dealing with virtual or real people (customers/clients), It is vital to make the other person feel important in such a way that he or she can notice or sense it and appreciate such gestures.

1. Empathic Listening is the Turn On

When we are communicating with another person we often listen in one of the four levels, such as ignoring, pretending, selective listening and attentive listening. However, we  should  be  using  the  fifth,  highest form  of  listening- empathic  listening. Empathic  listening  is  listening  with  intent  to  understand  the  other  person's  frame  of reference  and  feelings.  You  must  listen  with  your  ears,  your  eyes  and  your  heart. 

Listening builds self-esteem. Your concern and confidence are expressed when you are able to listen to another person talking to you without interrupting the flow of conversation in order to understand his or her point of view. It has been said that, “Rapt attention is the highest form of flattery.” You help the other person's self esteem to go up when you listen empathically to him or her and it is clear that you sincerely care about what that other person is saying. The person's feeling of personal value increases. The person feels more worthwhile and important as a human being. Listening in a warm, genuine, caring way to everything someone has to say actually makes that person feel terrific about himself or herself.

2. Show Interest In the Other Person

The first time a man and a woman go out, they spend an excessive amount of time talking and listening to each other. They stare into each others eyes and dwell on every word. These two love birds are each captivated by the personality of the other. The more each listens to the other, the more positive and elated each of them feels and the stronger becomes the bonds of affection between them. This show of interest in the other person makes the other person feel important and valued. When you pay close attention to the other person and things that matter to him or her, it is a show of genuine interest. The person feels special and loved.

3. Concentrate 100% On the Other Person

How do you quickly show you value or devalue someone? Apparently, you always listen to that which you most value  and always ignore that which you devalue. The opposite of listening is ignoring. The fastest way to turn a person off, to hurt their feelings and make them feel slighted and angry is to simply ignore what they are saying or interrupt them in the middle of a thought. Ignoring or interrupting is the equivalent of an emotional slap in the face.

Some people have the habit of interrupting while conversing on phone to call out on someone else or greet another person around ignoring the other person on phone. Such attitude is not a good one. It doesn't make the other person feel important. Regardless of the person you have to deal with on the other side, it is mature to tell the other person, "please hold on for a second," or whatever polite way of taking permission suites you and quickly say what you have to say and get back to the person on phone if you ever have to interrupt your conversation.

Men especially have to be careful about their natural
desire to make a remark or an observation in the middle of a conversation. This can often cause a disconnect in communication and bring a business conversation to a grinding halt. Ladies also need to work on their multitask mind swinging from work to kitchen to grocery store to laundry, and take control of their mind to prevent interruption during conversation.

On the whole, make it a norm to take every opportunity to make the other person feel important by listening empathically to what he or she says.

Next to it, avoid interrupting the other person by slowing down and pausing for a few moments after he or she has stopped speaking.

See people as God's precious gifts in your life until they prove beyond reasonable doubt they are not. Try your best to make them feel important. If you think you deserve it then activate that feeling in someone else, it will come back to you.

Life is good only if you know how to live it.

David, Johnson